Forgive me. I never meant to confuse you in such a way. I....well..... I used the wrong word. *sniff*
Defer, as it turns out, means to put of an action or event until a later time; postpone. What I meant, however, was deny, or decline. In my excitement to get my first ever post up, I accidentally added deffer to my spell check.
It is not a real word. While I am all about making up new words ( awesometastical is a great example), that is a deplorable error.
I 'm sorry. However, now that this is said, I really hope some people *coughcough* will forget this . Within this century. Really. It's ok to let go. Move on.